In our lives, two forces play a major part in the paths we choose and the decisions we make.
The first of these forces is what we experience in our desire to further a relationship, achieve a goal or develop in some other way. The second comes to the fore in the doubts or anxieties we feel about these same things.
This state of ‘being in two minds’ is called ambivalence, and it’s the main hurdle for people who want to recover from addiction.
The addict’s ambivalent feelings
Many addicts describe their relationship to drugs or alcohol as:
The continued search for good feelings in the short term (the need to use/drink) coupled to feelings of dread or repulsion for the long-term consequences (the need to not use/drink)
These conflicting needs are at the core of the addict’s ambivalent feelings. We call them the True Self and the False Self, and they’re represented by the two arrows in the Recovery Here Now logo.
The True Self wants connection with itself and others. Its inclination is toward abstinence and recovery. The False Self, however, acts as a protective screen for the True Self – a place to hide. Its inclination is toward addiction and continued disconnection.
During the Recovery Here Now course, we separate and explore these two aspects so they can be clearly understood and enable the individual to make a conscious choice.
Learning about addiction
Recovery Here Now helps clients develop a deeper understanding of addiction – what it is, what it wants, its consequences – and how it relates to them. This achieves two goals:
- Develops an individual’s compassion and understanding for their addiction
- Offers an experience of the powerful force for recovery that lies within them
For a more detailed explanation of the True and False Self, please refer to the Addiction and Self page.